Mary is a typical small business owner, she keeps herself busy doing the ‘hands on’ work. In her case it is doing beauty treatments and she told me she keeps doing this because she really enjoys it.
Her clients constantly tell her how great she is, which makes her feel appreciated. However it traps her into staying ‘on the tools’.
Mary has 5 people on her team, and she struggles with letting them handle her clients. She also complains that it it’s challenging finding competent people. Mary stays up late most nights working on her business doing the basic administration and ‘trying’ to squeeze some time in for marketing. There is barely any time for her to spend with her husband. The reality is her self-esteem is constantly being boosted through her clients. At home she doesn’t receive the accolades and compliments. She’s avoided the problems she has in her marriage, that’s why she keeps herself busy. Her unhappiness at home combined with lack of sleep affects how she runs her business. The ‘people’ problems she experiences is directly related to her own unhappiness, poor management skills and her unrealistic expectations of others. Mary has been in business for many years and now says she wants to kick back and not work so hard.
What Mary has difficulty seeing is that no matter how many hours she ‘works’, nothing is going to change. She will continue having staff and relationship issues as well as money and health problems. Until she realises that she is the change that has to happen, her business and her personal life is more than likely going to continue on the same path or get worse.
By slowing down and creating the space to focus your attention on what really matters you’re going to be much more happier.
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